Kids, Anger & Tools To Help





How do I know if my child is having anger challenges?
 


1. Silent and holds in feelings. 

2. Acting without thinking.

3. Has difficulty dealing with frustrations.

4. Regularly requires reminders to control temper.

5. Refuses to accept responsibility.

6. Blames others for actions.




7. Appears to not care about other's feelings.

8. Often uses physical aggression for example kicking, hitting or shouting
9. Difficulty calming down.

10. Have trouble calming down when they are upset.

11. Bullying others.

12. Behavior changes from calm to upset quickly.









What are some tips to help children handle anger in better ways?




1. Writing down feelings, having a journal.

2. Drawing about feelings.

3. Puzzles or coloring. 

4. Create a calming place. 

5. Counting to 10 while taking deep breaths. 

6. Teach positive self talk. (I can be calm) 

7. Teach children feelings. (sad, angry, nervous, irritated, frustrated, happy, excited)

8. Teach children it's ok to be upset. 




9. Hit a pillow or punching bag. 

10. Calming activities. 

11. Teach think before you speak. 

12. Exercise reduces stress.
 
13. Once they are calm, have them express how they are feeling and why. 

14. When calm think of positive solutions to reduce anger for next time. 

15. Use relaxation techniques. 

16. Practice yoga. 








Books To Help Children With Anger 


I Was So Mad (Little Critters) Written By Mercer Mayer
Mercer Mayer's very popular Little Critter stars in a picture book about feeling angry. With minimal text and funny illustrations to spell out every new situation, the book shows the Critter family saying no to everything Little Critter wants to do. He can't keep frogs in the tub. He can't help paint the house. Finally, mad at the world, Little Critter announces he will run away. When pals come by and ask him to come and play baseball, our young hero's mood quickly changes. He grabs his bat and heads off for the game, telling himself he can run away another day if he is still so mad.


I Hate Everything! A book about feeling angry Written by Sue Graves
It’s hard for children to accept not getting their way. Sam hates when his brother cries or his dad is too busy to play. When he loses his place in “Musical Chairs,” Sam cries, “I hate everything!” With the help of his aunt, Sam learns new ways to deal with his anger and feel better.


Cool Down and Work Through Anger Written by Cheri J Meiners
Everyone gets angry, so it’s never too early for children to learn to recognize feelings of anger, express them, and build skills for coping with anger in helpful, appropriate ways. Children learn that it is okay to feel angry—but not okay to hurt anyone with actions or words. They discover concrete skills for working through anger: self-calming, thinking, getting help from a trusted person, talking and listening, apologizing, being patient, and viewing others positively. Reassuring and supportive, the book helps preschool and primary-age children see that when they cool down and work through anger, they can feel peaceful again.

How To Take The Grrrr Out Of Anger Written by Elizabeth Verdick & Marjorie Misovskis
Anger is a part of life. We can’t avoid it, we shouldn’t stuff it, and we can’t make it go away.
Kids need help learning how to manage their anger. This book speaks directly to them and offers strategies they can start using immediately.
Blending solid information and sound advice with jokes and funny cartoons, it guides kids to understand that anger is normal and can be expressed in many ways—some healthy, some not.
It teaches them how to recognize anger in themselves and others, how to handle situations and emotions (loneliness, guilt, frustration, fear) that lead to or mask anger, and how to deal with the anger they feel.
Young readers learn that violence is not acceptable and there are better, safer, more positive ways to resolve conflicts.



What To Do When Your Temper Flares: A Kid's Guide To Overcoming Problems With Anger Written Dawn Huebner
Guides children and their parents through the cognitive-behavioral techniques used to treat problems with anger. This interactive self-help book teaches children a set of anger dousing methods aimed at cooling angry thoughts and controlling angry actions, resulting in calmer, more effective kids.


When I Feel Angry Written by Cornelia Maude Spelman
Everyone feels angry sometimes, but there are always ways to feel better! Join a bunny rabbit and her family as she learns to manage angry feelings. With a focus on identifying the causes of an emotional reaction, and coming up with ways to start feeling calm and happy again, this book explains simple strategies to help kids understand and take care of their emotions.




Feelings & Anger Games & Tools

 
Temper Tamers By Free Spirit Publishing
Learn how to calm down and keep your cool in order to control your temper and express your feelings in positive ways. Ages 8–11, 101 cards, 3" recyclable plastic screw top jar. Based in Minneapolis, Minnesota, Free Spirit Publishing is known for its unique understanding of what kids want (and need) to navigate life successfully. Free Spirit's reputation as a leading publisher of Self-Help for Kids(tm) and Self-Help for Teens(tm) is grounded in books and other learning materials that are practical, positive, pro-kid, and solution focused.


Feelings In A Jar By Free Spirit Publishing
Everyone needs to know how to name and express feelings. Each jar holds 365 little slips printed with “feelings words”—gleeful, insecure, grateful, angry, cranky, courageous, hopeful, and many more. Pull a slip and act out the feeling, or invite someone else to act it out. Use as discussion starters, journaling prompts, or icebreakers for groups. Ages 8 & up, 365 slips, 3" recyclable plastic screw top jar.


Chill Skills In A Jar: Anger Management For Teens
Learn healthy ways to cage your rage. Deal positively with your anger and maintain respectful relationships. Ages 12 & up, 101 cards, 3" recyclable plastic screw top jar.
Based in Minneapolis, Minnesota, Free Spirit Publishing is known for its unique understanding of what kids want (and need) to navigate life successfully. Free Spirit's reputation as a leading publisher of Self-Help for Kids(tm) and Self-Help for Teens(tm) is grounded in books and other learning materials that are practical, positive, pro-kid, and solution focused.

Mad Dragon: An Anger Control Card Game By Therapy Game HQ
This fast-paced therapeutic card game helps children ages 6-12: Control their anger in the moment; Practice 12 effective anger management techniques; Understand what anger feels and looks like; Avoid anger-provoking situations; Express and understand their feelings; Identify anger cues; Learn that they have choices about how to express anger. Mad Dragon plays like the popular game UNO. Players race to get rid of their cards while learning anger control skills. Fun and effective, this game includes 100 high-quality 3" x 4 1/2" cards, instructions, and tips for taming anger. For 2 to 8 players.

My Feelings Game By Sensational Learners Inc.
• 280 scenarios to help kids explore and talk about feelings!
• 260 regulation strategies to help kids to return to a calm and alert state!
• 24 movement cards to help kids engage!
• Illustrated Booklet that introduces seven different kids with seven different feelings!
• My Feelings TM features seven basic feelings that players will first identify, then explore by moving along the game board, drawing cards, answering questions, and taking silly breaks. As they play, children will discover how to recognize feelings in themselves and in others, and to cope with them in socially appropriate ways. And they'll have way too much fun to realize that they're developing valuable life skills!

Todd Parr makes understanding feelings fun with these 20 sturdy flash cards featuring 40 different emotions. Each card shows two opposite feelings, one on each side, rendered in words and lively pictures. Kids will learn what it means to feel silly and serious, calm and nervous, brave and scared, and more.
  • Develop emotional intelligence: kids will learn what it means to feel silly and serious, calm and nervous, brave and scared, and more.
  • Easily portable: the portable pack of cards is perfect for learning at home, in the classroom, or on the go.
  • Sturdy for small hands: printed on thick, sturdy board, These cards are durable enough for play for kids ages 3 months to 4 years.