Kids, Anger & Tools To Help
How do I know if my child is having anger challanges?

-Silent and holds in feelings
-Acting without thinking
-Has difficulty dealing with frustrations
-Regularly requires reminders to control temper
-Refuses to accept responsibility
-Blames others for actions
-Appears to not care about other's feelings
-Often uses physical agression for example kicking, hitting or shouting
-Difficulty calming down
-Have trouble calming down when they are upset
-Bullying others
-Behavior changes from calm to upset quickly
-Redirection
-Breathing Techniques


What are some tips to help children handle anger in better ways?

-Writing down feelings
-Drawing about feelings
-Puzzles, coloring or a calming activity
-Visualise a calming place
-Counting to 10 while taking deep breaths
-Teach positive self talk (I can be calm)
-Teach children feelings (sad, angry, nervous, irritated, frustrated, happy, excited)
-Teach children it's ok to be angry
-Hit a pillow or punching bag
-Have a calm down area
-Teach think before you speak
-Exercise reduces stress
-Once they are calm, express how they are feeling and why
-When calm think of positive solutions to reduce anger next time
-Use relaxation techniques



Books To Help Children With Anger
When Sophie Gets Angry--Really, Really Angry Written by Molly Bang
A young girl is upset and doesn't know how to manage her anger but takes the time to cool off and regain her composure.





I Was So Mad (Little Critters) Written By Mercer Mayer
Mercer Mayer's very popular Little Critter stars in a picture book about feeling angry. With minimal text and funny illustrations to spell out every new situation, the book shows the Critter family saying no to everything Little Critter wants to do. He can't keep frogs in the tub. He can't help paint the house. Finally, mad at the world, Little Critter announces he will run away. When pals come by and ask him to come and play baseball, our young hero's mood quickly changes. He grabs his bat and heads off for the game, telling himself he can run away another day if he is still so mad.
(I read this to Bean when she was little over a million times and still love it)







I Hate Everything! A book about feeling angry Written by Sue Graves
It’s hard for children to accept not getting their way. Sam hates when his brother cries or his dad is too busy to play. When he loses his place in “Musical Chairs,” Sam cries, “I hate everything!” With the help of his aunt, Sam learns new ways to deal with his anger and feel better.





Cool Down and Work Through Anger Written by Cheri J Meiners
Everyone gets angry, so it’s never too early for children to learn to recognize feelings of anger, express them, and build skills for coping with anger in helpful, appropriate ways. Children learn that it is okay to feel angry—but not okay to hurt anyone with actions or words. They discover concrete skills for working through anger: self-calming, thinking, getting help from a trusted person, talking and listening, apologizing, being patient, and viewing others positively. Reassuring and supportive, the book helps preschool and primary-age children see that when they cool down and work through anger, they can feel peaceful again.








How To Take The Grrrr Out Of Anger Written by Elizabeth Verdick & Marjorie Misovskis
Anger is a part of life. We can’t avoid it, we shouldn’t stuff it, and we can’t make it go away.
Kids need help learning how to manage their anger. This book speaks directly to them and offers strategies they can start using immediately.
Blending solid information and sound advice with jokes and funny cartoons, it guides kids to understand that anger is normal and can be expressed in many ways—some healthy, some not.
It teaches them how to recognize anger in themselves and others, how to handle situations and emotions (loneliness, guilt, frustration, fear) that lead to or mask anger, and how to deal with the anger they feel.
Young readers learn that violence is not acceptable and there are better, safer, more positive ways to resolve conflicts.







What To Do When Your Temper Flares: A Kid's Guide To Overcoming Problems With Anger Written Dawn Huebner
Guides children and their parents through the cognitive-behavioral techniques used to treat problems with anger. This interactive self-help book teaches children a set of anger dousing methods aimed at cooling angry thoughts and controlling angry actions, resulting in calmer, more effective kids.






When I Feel Angry Written by Cornelia Maude Spelman
Anger is a scary emotion for young children, their parents, and caregivers. As this little bunny experiences the things that make her angry, she also learns ways to deal with her anger--ways that won't hurt others.









Feelings & Anger Games & Tools


Temper Tamers By Free Spirit Publishing

Learn how to calm down and keep your cool in order to control your temper and express your feelings in positive ways. Ages 8–11, 101 cards, 3" recyclable plastic screw top jar.








Feelings In A Jar By Free Spirit Publishing
Everyone needs to know how to name and express feelings. Each jar holds 365 little slips printed with “feelings words”—gleeful, insecure, grateful, angry, cranky, courageous, hopeful, and many more. Pull a slip and act out the feeling, or invite someone else to act it out. Use as discussion starters, journaling prompts, or icebreakers for groups. Ages 8 & up, 365 slips, 3" recyclable plastic screw top jar.








Chill Skills In A Jar: Anger Management For Teens
Learn healthy ways to cage your rage. Deal positively with your anger and maintain respectful relationships. Ages 12 & up, 101 cards, 3" recyclable plastic screw top jar.







Mad Dragon: An Anger Control Card Game By Therapy Game HQ
This fast-paced therapeutic card game helps children ages 6-12: Control their anger in the moment; Practice 12 effective anger management techniques; Understand what anger feels and looks like; Avoid anger-provoking situations; Express and understand their feelings; Identify anger cues; Learn that they have choices about how to express anger. Mad Dragon plays like the popular game UNO. Players race to get rid of their cards while learning anger control skills. Fun and effective, this game includes 100 high-quality 3" x 4 1/2" cards, instructions, and tips for taming anger. For 2 to 8 players.








My Feelings Game By Sensational Learners Inc.
• 280 scenarios to help kids explore and talk about feelings!
• 260 regulation strategies to help kids to return to a calm and alert state!
• 24 movement cards to help kids engage!
• Illustrated Booklet that introduces seven different kids with seven different feelings!
• My Feelings TM features seven basic feelings that players will first identify, then explore by moving along the game board, drawing cards, answering questions, and taking silly breaks. As they play, children will discover how to recognize feelings in themselves and in others, and to cope with them in socially appropriate ways. And they'll have way too much fun to realize that they're developing valuable life skills!







Todd Parr makes understanding feelings fun with these 20 sturdy flash cards featuring 40 different emotions. Each card shows two opposite feelings, one on each side, rendered in words and lively pictures. Kids will learn what it means to feel silly and serious, calm and nervous, brave and scared, and more.






Thoughts and Feelings: A Sentence Completion Card Game By Bright Spots Games
• Winner of the Dr. Toy - 100 BEST Products & Dr. Toy - 10 BEST Socially Responsible Products
• Fast-paced therapeutic card game designed for children aged 5 to 12
• Designed to support parents, teachers and mental health professionals by engaging children; the characters help the children identify, process, and work through a variety of issues, including changes within the family, trauma, grief, anger, depression, anxiety and fears.
• Thoughts & Feelings versions 1 & 2 combine well together to make a more complete assessment tool
• Qty: 35 cheerfully animated, fun feeling, play cards with colorful illustrations per box