What SPD Parents Want You To Know

1. Sensory Processing Disorder is not just parents making excuses for behavior problems in school
2. Our kids are not "bad kids"
3. Our kids do not "lack discipline"
4. You can not "spank the behaviors out of them"
5. We are not making excuses for bad behaviors
6. "One size fits all" parenting does not work with Sensory Processing Disorder
7. Sensory Processing Disorder is real. It changes. It shifts. It morphs. Just because something was fine one moment, doesn't mean it will be fine the next
8. It can be extremely challenging to live with as well as to parent a child who has Sensory Processing Disorder
9. Sensory Processing Disorder cause extreme reactions, behaviors, and anxiety
10. Small accomplishments in overcoming sensory differences are huge for kids and families
11. Sensory Processing Disorder does exist!
12. If you see a child having a meltdown in the store, it's not because they're misbehaving. This could be sensory overload
13. A meltdown is not the same as a tantrum
14. Our kids are not weird, or bad. Don't judge, & educate yourself about Sensory Processing Disorder
15. Change is scary for children with Sensory Processing Disorder
16. Children with Sensory Processing Disorder may use weighted blankets for calming. They crave pressure
17. Some food they just can not eat, sometimes it's the texture sometimes it's the sight
18. They won't eat eventually when they are hungry enough
19. Sensory Processing Disorder is not something they just out grow
20. Be inclusive; someone's path through these woods may not be visible to you, be patient. Their path is just as beautiful and full of potential as the one you can see
21. Malicious opinions are not acceptable. Simply being supportive and understanding is very appreciated
22. Children with Sensory Processing Disorder are not giving us a hard time, they are having a hard time
23. Sounds and smells can cause our children meltdown
24. Sensory Processing Disorder does not affect everyone the same way
25. Reading about Sensory Processing Disorder is different than living with Sensory Processing Disorder
26. Sensory Processing Disorder is not "curable"
27. Symptoms or "triggers" may change over time for our children as they get older, are exposed to new/different things & settings
28. Children with Sensory Processing Disorder are not "spoiled" and they do not react this way for attention
29. Children with Sensory Processing Disorder are still amazing kiddos with a lot of love to give
30. You are never too young to have Sensory Processing Disorder. Please don't tell us to give our children more time. Saying "all kids go through things like this" is NOT helpful as we are doubting what we think and you are making those doubts worse
31. We are not bad parents. We are good parents because we try our best
32. Many children with Sensory Processing Disorder have a very high IQ and are gifted
33. We wouldn't change them for the world, but we sometimes wish we could change the world for them
34. Sensory Processing Disorder can be a disability
35. Please don't brag to us about how well your child does and how he/she is exceeding expectations with things. It can be hurtful. Just because they are not exceeding levels expected of them doesn't mean they are not exceeding and overcoming a lot on a daily basis
36. Don't judge us parents, but support us and encourage us
37. How they react has nothing to do with their age.
38. Sensory Processing Disorder is exhausting for parents, and kids too
39. Children who have Sensory Processing Disorder can do what typical kids can do
40. Either support and help us parents or get out of the way, please
41. When it looks like our children are spacing out and unable to focus, they are actually trying to process sensations and feelings
42. Understand that our children are smart, beautiful, kind and caring. They are compassionate and have huge hearts
43. Kids (and parents of) have feelings too
44. Until you walk a mile in our shoes, please do not judge us
45. Sensory Processing Disorder can be can be debilitating
46. We have good days and bad days
47. We parent our children based on our child's individual needs
48. Girls and boys can have Sensory Processing Disorder
49. We wish Sensory Processing Disorder would be recognized in the The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM)
50. We would love for our family and friends to learn more about Sensory Processing Disorder
51. Just because Sensory Processing Disorder cannot be diagnosed, does not make it any less of a diagnosis. This doesn't mean that our children suffer any less
52. Change is not always good. Change is very difficult for children with Sensory Processing Disorder
53. Please stop telling us that if we spanked our children that they wouldn't act like this
54. Sensory Processing Disorder doesn't have a "look"
55. Kids with Sensory Processing Disorder may only eat certain foods or wear certain clothes
56. Adults can also have Sensory Processing Disorder
57. Sensory Processing Disorder is a disorder that you cannot physically see. What may look like defiance is actually the child's inability to cope with his overwhelming environment
58. Sensory Processing Disorder doesn't just affect the kids, but everyone around them.
59. Most parents who have children with Sensory Processing Disorder are often tired and exhausted
60. Children are not the only ones affected by Sensory Processing Disorder. Often the parent and their child have Sensory Processing Disorder and trigger each other